Too many options. Not enough options. We haven’t been paid. We can’t pay them yet. No one showed up. No one signed up. No one spoke up. They never replied. Not enough chairs. It’s a Chinese holiday. They missed the deadline. No one can find us. The link is broken. Does anyone care? I care too much. These ordinary problems…
Archives for May 2016
Kenny.

I used to go to Kenny’s restaurant when I lived in New York City. One reason I loved it, besides the six pages of comfort food offered on the menu, was that it had a lot of idiosyncratic rules; I saw real estate brokers get kicked out for talking on cell phones and bankers get asked to leave for thinking…
Over Everything.

Over committed. Over extended. Over burdened. Over invested. Over stretched. Over achieving. Over done. Over wrought. Over selling. Over reacting. Over board. These cycles can happen to the best of us. We get onto a freeway going the speed limit, and within weeks or months find ourselves on the Autobahn. 60MPH becomes 90MPH. Soon there’s no off ramp, because you’re…
See Me

When we feel invisible, in our work contributions, in our personal relationships, in our families, in our communities, as women, as mothers, as partners, as friends – it sucks (just to be really eloquent). There’s a rage, and then sadness, that comes from habitual invisibleness or insignificantness. Any time we don’t feel valued for what we bring, that yucky feeling translates…
Conditions

One fantastic thing about aging – or really just the passage of time and the experience that comes with it – is how much we clearly see the conditions that support our success. You start to deeply commit to what it takes to be not just happy or successful – but actually effective. This idea is easy to overlook. Conditions…