The Rate of Return usually measures how quickly you get back what you put out. You spend $ABC on Facebook ads and get XYZ number of impressions. Itâ€™s the gain or loss on an investment over a specified time period, expressed as a percentage of the investment’s cost. But (snore)â€¦ letâ€™s simplify it and make you care.
I often think about ROR with an additional metric. When curve balls come, and they do, how long does it take you to regain consciousness? How many minutes, hours, days, weeks, monthsâ€¦does it take to find your balance again? To return to yourself and center? We all invest in people and projects that feel hopeful. When they donâ€™t embrace us back, it can feel pretty chilly at worst, and a waste of our time at best.
Ideally, this process gets shorter and shorter. A meditation practice, a physical movement routine, a connection to something beyond yourself, usually supports the efficiency of the path back to your skin, your sanity â€“ the truth that keeps your finger off the trigger. A little perspective also helps. â€œThis has happened before, it will happen again, and Iâ€™m still here,â€ is one way to get into fast agreement with a rough moment.
The deepest wounds are usually around relationships, and how we feel appreciated / regarded / understood / seen and respected. And so often, the other person or people involved have little clue to their impact.
Iâ€™m chagrined at how slowly Iâ€™ve pivoted when the writing has been on the wall. But, you donâ€™t know until you know.
And then, you know.